As a Clarity Business Coach, one of the main things I do is help my clients to shift their mindset so that they are open to the new opportunities that come their way. When you are in a more positive space, you are a magnet for good shit. But here’s the thing… being positive doesn’t mean that you have to be happy 24/7. This isn’t about that toxic “everyone eats rainbows and poops butterflies” positivity. It’s about seeing things in a new perspective and in this week’s blog, I’ll be giving you three ways to do exactly that!
Check Out Those Silver Linings
Right now, there may be so much shit going on in your life and it may feel like it's impossible to be positive but I promise you that if I can do it, you can too! As someone who has been through a lot of hard moments in my life - a divorce after an emotionally abusive relationship and raising two special needs children as a single mother - I’ve come to realize that everything does really happen for a reason.
You have to consciously sift through the negative and find the lessons or the silver linings around the situation. It may be easier said than done when you’re in the thick of it but you can choose to learn from and grow through these tough moments. Life can be amazing, if you own every part of it and realize that what you CAN control is your reaction.
Be Like Elsa and “Let It Go”
Have you ever seen a baby grab something they aren’t supposed to have? Those little fingers are like vice grips and it’s hard to get them to let go. Sometimes we can be that way with our pain. We hold on to our hurt, our anger, and all the negativity even though we know it’s not serving us. But holding on to it and expecting things to change or improve, is like drinking poison and waiting for it to effect someone else. You create your reality so why hold on so hard to the things that are weighing you down? When you sit in the negative, you call in MORE negative.
You don't DESERVE the bad things that happen to you but you don’t have to feel like a victim either. I didn’t deserve an emotionally abusive relationship, but I accepted it and thought that was the best there was. Because of that, I allowed myself to stay stuck in it. Once I shifted my mindset and realized I deserved more, I started calling in more. I set boundaries, cut out toxic people, and eventually found my Unicorn Man! If it’s the people around you that are giving you a hard time as you try to shift your mindset and level up your life... just let it go. Don't hold on to THEIR lack mindset or negativity. It's insecurities that you don't need to own. It's THEIRS.
Flip the Mental Script
Sometimes, the biggest changes a can come from the words we think and speak. Talk to yourself like you would talk to your child or your best friend! Be your own biggest hype person because being PROUD of yourself is not a bad thing. YOU ARE A BOSS! YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU ARE SMART, INTELLIGENT. When you realize your badassery, you'll realize it's selfish to keep that magic hidden from others. Pause before you speak. Think before you let words come out of your mouth - because those words are shaping your reality in real time.
When you decide that you are ready to start manifesting and you consciously shift your mindset and focus on what you want and deserve, it will start coming to you. It will take time and every day won’t be “easy,” but it will definitely be worth it. Take this as a challenge… to pause and think a few seconds before you speak or act. Ask yourself, “is this going to improve my life or benefits my relationships and business?” Remove the word “can’t” from your vocabulary and understand that life is a learning process for all of us.
You can get through whatever obstacles come your way and create a life that you love! But if you need a little support along the way, let’s chat. The “In Your Element” Mastermind Community is always there to give you the tools and resources that you need to change your mindset and embrace your magic. Can’t wait to see you there!