Did anyone else have an irrational fear of quicksand when they were younger? No, just me?

I feel like growing up, it was in so many movies and I kinda expected to have at least a run-in or two with it at some point in my life. 

But the thing you might not realize is that it's not literal quicksand you have to look out for. It's emotional quicksand that really does us in. 

A lot of people in my life right now have been mentioning that they feel "stuck" and it's because they are allowing themselves to be sucked into the bullshit (a.k.a. the emotional quicksand) of those around them. 

I can safely say that the majority of those inside the "In Your Element" Community are empaths; we feel deeply for the people around us; we feel for their struggles. 

We have our own problems and issues, but because we've worked on ourselves and have found a way to heal and move forward we want to help those around us to do the same.

But sometimes, the people around us enjoy staying in their misery. They don't want to change, they just want more people to attend the pity party with them. 

It's important to learn how to identify those people who just want to drag you down and disconnect yourself from their "safety rope." It's time to let go of the bullshit.

Quoted image, You can offer a helping hand, but you aren't obligated to sink with them if they refuse to put in the work to get out of the current they are trapped in.
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Understand that you get to create your own reality...Let go Of all the things holding you back aka the bullshit!

Everything that is happening around you is a blend of your thoughts, words, and emotions... and you have the power to shift things whenever you need to.  

Yes, I even believe those hard days are there for a reason. 

While they may suck, they are secretly just little life lessons wrapped up in messy paper and tape, waiting for us to open them up and see the gift inside. 

You're allowed to FEEL. To be happy, sad, angry... 

But what you shouldn't do is take on the feelings of OTHER PEOPLE. 

There is no responsibility or control over how they act, react, think, or speak... 

And once you realize that, everything gets easier. Let go of the bullshit!

What you can do is  offer a helping hand, but you aren't obligated to sink with them if they refuse to put in the work to get out of the current they are trapped in. 


Take care of your heart. 

Honor your emotions. 

When you do, everything will fall into place. 

If someone doesn't like your growth or the fact that they can't control your emotions anymore... show them the door and wish them well. 

And, as always, if you need people who are actually in your corner and ready to support your growth, let's chat

It's time to flip the switch and ditch the bullshit! 

Are you ready? 

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About the Author Stephanie Barthelmes

After ending a terrible relationship with her corporate job, she decided to go all in with her Virtual Assisting business.

As a mom of two special needs boys, she was looking for something that would give her control of her own life and schedule - and Virtual Assisting allowed her to do just that.

Stephanie's business grew and she realized that her passion stemmed from all things Tech, so she niched immediately.

As she continued to deep dive into new systems and perfect her craft, she discovered that what truly made my heart sing was sharing sparks of her magic with those that were interested in starting their own service based businesses.

To help even more people step into their element, she compiled all the knowledge she's gained over the past few years as both a Tech & Systems VA and Business Coach to bring you In Your Element Mastermind.

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